It’s time for us to take a leap. To leave behind conventional thinking about how we interact with each other and begin to expand what is possible. Think about when you last powerfully related with someone you first met. You may have heard yourself say “we just clicked” or “there was a chemistry about us that was hard to explain.”

“Hard to explain” is the place of lasting connection. This is the place you have been before. It is the place where the mind is open and still. Your confidence is obvious, but quiet. An attractor field is set up that others want to connect to. It is a place we want to go.

Here is the leap it’s time for us to take. By dropping the judgments associated with first impressions, we begin to listen deeper, remain open, and therefore create within the other person a strong lasting message. It seems like a paradox: drop your conditioned tendency to evaluate, screen, and analyze and you actually build the kind of impact a good impression was supposed to create.

The point is, it’s not about relationships, it’s about relating. Everyone is in relationship, whether close or distant, good or bad. But are we relating in a way that connects with the other person deeply and profoundly, that opens
them up?

You might respond, “Isn’t that the purpose of a good first impression? It allows us to connect, feel safe, shows them we can be trusted?” An impression is not a connection. An impression is a surface understanding, a perception of what we think or feel the other person is or should be. The concept of first impression keeps your mind and spirit lazy, foggy, and limited. We become unable to perceive beyond the definition set up by the rules of first impression.

A lasting connection is deeper and closer; it creates possibility. A new energetic relationship is set up that is more relaxed, open, and strong. With connection, you free yourself and the other person from unnecessary expectation, allowing both of you to move forward together.

Meditations on life, leadership, and how the world works by Jonathan Creaghan

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Drop the judgments associated with first impressions. Listen deeper, remain open, and thus create with the other person a strong lasting message.

The point is, it’s not about relationships, it’s about relating